With Christmas just around the corner, I thought it might be a good time to talk about giving sex toys as presents. Toys can be a popular gift choice but choosing the right one can be a challenge.
Choosing a sex toy for another person can be fraught with difficulties. The potential for embarrassment (both theirs and yours) is high. It’s a bit of a minefield but I’m here with some top tips and tricks to help you choose a gift that will delight your partner.
Before you begin shopping, it’s important to think about why you’re buying a sex toy for your partner. Have they expressed an interest in trying toys? Have they mentioned wanting to dip their toe into a particular kink, such as BDsM or anal play? Do want them to be able to enjoy steamy masturbation sessions? Or are you hoping that by buying them a toy you’ll be able to pressure them into letting you watch them use it? You have to be really honest with yourself here. If you are hoping to increase your partner’s pleasure or open the door to some fresh exploration, then that’s awesome. If you’re using the toy to entice your partner into doing something they aren’t comfortable with, then you should back off.
The next thing to consider is what your partner is into. Think about the kinds of activities your partner enjoys in the bedroom and look for toys that will enhance that experience. For example, if you know that your partner enjoys being restrained, maybe you could get them some gorgeous cuffs and a blindfold. If your partner prefers clitoral stimulation, try an external vibrator. It also pays to think about any areas of sexuality that your sweetheart has mentioned they are interested in trying. If they’re itching to try spanking, a paddle or a crop could be a cheeky addition to their toybox. Pay attention to your partner’s preferences and desires and choose accordingly.
Another thing to consider is whether your partner already owns any toys. If they have a budding collection, then it’s worth looking for any patterns in the toys they own. Do they seem to prefer insertable toys? Vibrators? Is their bedside drawer filled with butt plugs of various sizes? If there is a particular thing that they seem to love, try getting them something similar, with a twist. Dildos in luxurious materials like glass are a great start, as are vibrators with unique shapes or functions.
Once you’ve got an idea of the kind of thing you’d like to buy for your honey, do some research. Look at online stores for ideas, read reviews from sex blogger and pay attention to what they have to say. Take into account any criticisms and decide whether these are deal-breakers. Also remember that bodies vary wildly and what feels pleasurable to one person can be irritating or numbing for another.
Is your head spinning yet? I’m not surprised. Shopping for sex toys can be an overwhelming experience. There are so many to choose from and a plethora factors to consider. Which brings me to my most important piece of advice.
If you aren’t 100% sure what to get for your partner, get them a gift voucher. Unless you know for a fact that your partner is drooling over a specific model of vibrator, the best thing you can do is give them a voucher for a reputable adult store. This way, they can either go by themselves or you can make it an adventure for the both of you to go to the store and choose something that suits them perfectly.
Giving a voucher or a toy-shopping expedition as a gift overcomes a lot of the pitfalls of shopping for a partner. It takes away all the guesswork of trying to imagine what they might like. It makes your partner feel empowered to choose something that they would find pleasurable, rather than being pressured into using the specific item you picked out. Going shopping as a couple can be a really fun bonding experience and you won’t waste money on something that your partner won’t use. Unless you’re really certain that your partner wants a specific toy, I think that going shopping together or giving them a voucher to spend at their leisure is the best way to gift a sex toy to your partner.